Unfriend your best friends to save your friendship.

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Here’s an idea my wife suggested: Go through your friend list on Facebook and Twitter. Select the ones you get along with the best (the ones you consider close friends, confidants, etc). Then unfriend them. Stop following them. That’s it. Sound crazy? Why would you do such a thing? Because Facebook and Twitter may have warped our perception of “closeness” of friends. The constant stream of updates from our friends saturate our brain. We experience the daily events of everyone, regardless how close or distant we are, at the same “volume”. Things get worse when mere acquaintances post far more frequently than our best friends. These close relationships get pushed aside to make room for noise of all the other people we “friend”. Why is this? Because unlike our social media outlets, our brains have a finite capacity for simultaneous connections. It’s called the Dunbar Number.

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